Challenges of dating a single parent
’ Yes, well, that’s because you were with your boy.” Dating for two is difficult; dating in a crowd is downright complicated.The kids are engaged, at least on some level, even when you don’t think they are.The other perk being that you can almost guarantee that a house with kids in it, is guaranteed to have snacks on demand at all times.And depending on how you look at it, there may also be some “downsides” when it comes to dating a mom, let alone a single mom.Through a cancer diagnosis, kids’ injuries (all three were wrestlers) and challenging workload, she maintains her humanity and humor. In the time since my divorce, most of my first dates were coincidentally the last dates because I couldn’t wait to get home and call a friend or one of my sisters to laugh.The following excerpt is a shortened version of Weldon’s chapter on the challenges of dating as a single, midlife parent, titled simply: Raising the boys alone without financial assistance or physical reprieve kept me occupied, if not impatient. “How often are your boys away for the whole weekend? “Never.” I noticed a perceptible shift in his demeanor. I liked being able to relinquish control, even if just in the restaurant ordering wine.In my opinion, being a single mother has absolutely nothing to do with one’s marital status.
Usually children will acquiesce when they see the other person is making the parent happy, and it may relieve them of the feeling that they must nurture the parent because of the loss of a prior relationship.Single parents may come to that role via different scenarios -- personal choice, divorce, separation or death of a partner -- but they all face similar challenges.Children usually want their parents all to themselves and are often resentful of their parent’s affections for someone else.If they do feel jealousy, it is wise to have some alone-time with them for special activities where the new partner is not included.As a single parent, you may find you have little time to spend on outside relationships.